How to Manage Negativity.
The following story, attributed to Socrates, is a good illustration of how to manage negative people: One day, a man rushed up to Socrates, saying, “I have some news to tell you!” Socrates raised his hand to stop the excited man. “First, let me ask you three questions,” Socrates said. “Ah, okay,” said the man. Socrates asked, “Is the news you are about to tell me something you know to be true?” “Well, no,” replied the man. “I heard it from a good source, though.” “Let’s go to the second question,” Socrates said. “Is the news you want to tell me about someone you know personally?” “Well, no,” the man said. “But I think you know the person.” “I see,” said Socrates. “Then let me ask you my final question. Is this news positive or negative?” “Well, it’s negative,” replied the man. “Let me see,” said Socrates wisely. “You want to tell me some news that you don’t know personally to be true, about someone you don’t know, and the news is negative.”
“Well, it sounds bad when you put it like that,” said the man. “I think I’ll pass,” Socrates replied.
Where Are Your Thoughts
Remember, the magnetic force of the Law of Attraction is always at work. You attract what you focus on and feed with emotional energy. Feed lack, you get lack. Focus on how terrible your back feels and you get to keep a bad back. Awareness of what you are emotionally feeling is the key here.
Eckart Tolle explains that it is your degree of presence that determines the quality of your consciousness, and it is the quality of your consciousness at this moment (moment to moment) that determines your future.
Discerning Truth from Falsehood
We live in a world of sound bites. People hear a five-second statement and make all kinds of assumptions-some are accurate, and some are not. For those seeking solutions for challenges in their lives, this is also true. For instance, they hear a statement and create a solution in their minds in part based on what they’ve listened to or a misunderstanding of a true principle. Then, they’re discouraged when things don’t work out the way they planned.
A good example is a statement from the movie The Secret: “If you want something, you simply have to imagine that you already have it, and it will be yours.” Is that an absolute truth?
Over the past few years, The Law of Attraction has been written about and discussed extensively. The law demonstrates that whatever you focus on consistently and emotionally will be drawn to you. So, in part, it is true. It’s also true that the Universe provides. But note this critical ancillary truth-we hold a myriad of conditioned limiting beliefs that interfere with our ability to align vibrationally with what we want to attract. These limiting beliefs often block you from taking the necessary action to move your life forward in the direction you desire. Notice the word “action” is a significant portion of the word attraction. Acting on ideas and inspiration is vital to the process of attraction.
If you have any doubt, think back to the very beginning of this year. Did you keep the resolutions you made? Did you take clear and decisive action, or did you give it a few weeks and then store the idea away like an old pair of socks? What about that goal to let go of 20 pounds of excess fat? Are you lighter, or are you still wearing your fat jeans? What about the promise you made to your spouse to pay down your debts? Are you richer, with a zero or lower balance on your plastic card, or has your balance grown? If all that was necessary were to have intentions, then you would have reached every single goal you have ever set! However, you didn’t, did you? They were worthwhile aims, but more than likely, you encountered limiting beliefs along the way that led to feelings of self-doubt and fear, or lack of motivation. The thoughts likely came from the subconscious level of mind. Deep in the subconscious, you expected to fail. This belief sent the message to your conscious mind that there was no point in trying.
Since you’ve failed in the past, you’ll probably fail again. Or the more convenient equivalent, procrastination. “II start tomorrow. These are what are known as counter-intentions. Identifying the limiting beliefs responsible for blocks and counter-intentions allows you to rewire the subconscious beliefs that have sabotaged your best intentions time and again in the past.
Threshold of Deservingness
Most people complain that they don’t have enough money. They look at their bills, their wants, and needs, then their checkbook, and they’re horrified. They often ask themselves:
- “How will I pay my bills?”
- “How will I feed my family?”
- “How will I make more money?”
You may ask yourself the same questions from time to time and experience similar feelings about them. We’ve all been there. You may be there right now.
Some people bemoan that the focus of The Law of Attraction, for so many, seems only to be about money or material things. They say it is self-serving or egotistical. Do you hear the cultural programming at work?
- “Money is the root of all evil”
- “Putting your needs first is selfish”
- “wanting material things is looked down upon and is not righteous or spiritual”
Notice the discrepancy: When you want money, but at the same time, you believe that focusing on it is “bad,” or selfish, then you’re pushing it away. This inner conflict is evidence of limiting beliefs at work beneath the surface.
Some of the very people who use the Law of Attraction to accomplish a goal, attract only so much money before they begin to think they are selfish. At that point, they unconsciously turn off the flow and wonder why it stopped.
It’s a strange thing to witness. People worry, fret, and scramble to find the money. Then, when they learn how to attract it and get some, they often complain that wealth isn’t spiritual or “good” for them. Why was the idea of more money “good” when they didn’t have it, but somehow became “bad” when they finally did? All of this is because of people’s beliefs. They will
hit their “threshold of deservingness” because they didn’t believe at a subconscious level that they deserved more than what they had.
We’ll further explain the concept through the following two examples:
- A person plays the lottery. But when the lotto gets to a hundred million dollars, they quit playing. They say that amount is “too much” or “that much money would ruin me.”
- Your relationship with your significant other has been going so well lately. Somewhere in your subconscious, you feel that it’s going too well. You begin to fear that you’ll be let down, heartbroken, or taken advantage of somehow if things continue this way, so you start to self-sabotage by unconsciously finding fault and picking petty fights. Chances are
you have a feeling that if things get too good, the pain will soon follow. The root of that subconscious belief could be in what you observed of your parents, relatives, or past relationships you were in, but self-sabotage ruins the relationship. This behavior pattern has the potential to destroy all your relationships if it continues.
Again, we’re dealing with beliefs that are determining our threshold of deservingness.
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